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    but I spoke to my academic advisor at university and he's put me in touch with counselling services at uni and has given me a bunch of advice on what my next step should be. And he gave me loads of advice on stuff - if I get a sick note from my GP I can have extensions on deadlines (And maybe exams) and if I have a bad episode before an exam I do a resit as a first sit and I can also have a free pass to leave lectures/tutorials if it all gets too much

    (like yesterday why a guy was saying 'why bother coming to a tutorial if you don't do the work' how about because its a miracle I got out of bed today, and a miracle I got out of the house and at least I'm sat here taking notes and participating where I can. I might not be able to do the work but at least I'm TRYING to participate - and it really upset me and really made me feel about one foot tall and I just wanted to leave and cry)

    I'm coping okay but I know that I could be heading for danger and I'm liking the fact I'm able to recognise that and protect against any possible damage.
    Uni are aware now, and I just have to get evidence for my file (And I might ask for a doctors note to prove my depression, just in case)
    I'm going to the doctors and I know what I'm asking for. I WANT to be medicated, only until june, but I don't want to take anti-depressants because no.
    And I'm going to see about counselling or some mindfulness drop-in sessions at uni just to try and help me get through until June.

    being pro-active and protecting myself feels good. I am genuinely proud of myself today
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rosasaurr View Post
    I WANT to be medicated, only until june, but I don't want to take anti-depressants because no.
    Good steps to take!

    However what does the above mean? Please don't get your hopes up. Whilst it good to tell a GP what you think may be wrong with you, you'll find it hard to dictate what they prescribe to you and for how long.

    Any kind of anti-depressant or anti-anxiety medication is usually given 3-6 months to even see if it's making a difference. So ending it in 2.5 months is going to be pretty much pointless.

    It's good to know what you are/aren't willing to do, however please realise that some mental health issues really do benefit from medication.

    I would be a complete mess if my MH illness wasn't treated with medication. It's a chemical imbalance that needs correcting.
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    Like, I've done a fair whack of research into what can be given for anxiety. And I just.. I don't feel comfortable with taking anti-depressants. I have reasons and its literally nothing against them - I know for some people they can work wonders - but I just don't want to take them. I'm willing to discuss it with a doctor but I think different types of medication would be better for me? Like benzodiazepines which are good for the short term I need them for.

    I know most of my anxiety is being caused by my surroundings (hence wanting counselling) so I just need something short term to get me through and make some of the physical symptoms easier I'd rather not be taking something that needs long term commitment when I know its only a fairly short amount of time I need them for. Like as soon as one of the major three things that is causing me anxiety goes I'll be okay, and the first is this house and that is over in June.

    I'm willing to discuss everything with a doctor but, if possible, I want to avoid anti-depressants. I think it helps that I'm read up on my options though and I know what questions to ask.
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    I'm pretty sure current NICE guidelines suggest bennys as a last resort type thing for extremely severe anxiety like for people who are agoraphobic, ie unable to leave their home, lead a normal life etc. If you can guarantee and end to your attacks then they will probably be pretty reluctant and want you to consider auto prevention rather then medicative prevention and above all cure but you seem to be able to put a time limit on your illness. It's also often only prescribed to those who are resistant to AD therapy so it can take some time. Also be aware that they have some not too nice side effects and may have a knock on effect on college work as they can make you drowsy and limit cognitive functionality.

    Of course I can only speculate, I don't know what you have been professionally diagnosed with and what you have tried already.

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    Yeah aren't benzies for short term use because they're super dangerous? I had some short term K-pin and I felt like a zombie... Albeit a calm zombie that didn't have panic attacks in Chemistry. but I agree with Hazel. Good to know
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    Rosasaurr, sorry to hear you're having a tough time, it sounds like you've got a hell of a lot on your plate right now :( from my own experience with mental health issues whilst at uni, the best thing you can do is be completely honest with the uni/your tutors etc (which it sounds like you are already doing, so well done). You need to let them help you and to take as much time and help as you need to get through this.

    When it comes to medication, be very careful going down the Benzo route. Doctors are very reluctant to prescribe these unless absolutely necessary, and often will not give more than 1 month supply. This is due to how addictive they can be, and also because of side effects. You need to get the anxiety under control, but feeling heavily sedated or cognitively impaired isn't going to help you do your exams either. As others have mentioned, antidepressants are a long-term medication; they need to be taken for at least a month (if not longer) before results are seen and then there's tweaking your dose and basically a lot of waiting around until it works. So if you only wish to be medicated until June, then they're probably not for you (not that you wanted to take them anyway).

    I have a quite lot of experience with mental health issues in my job and in my own personal life. The way I tend to see it is this: if your mental health problems have very clear environmental causes (which seems to be true for you), then talking therapies (counselling, CBT, mindfulness etc), and making active changes to your life, will usually be more helpful than medication. In my case, there have been virtually no significant environmental stressors in my life and I have still been very unwell, so for me, talking therapies have been unhelpful (next to nothing to talk about) and medication has been the only thing to help me (more likely a chemical imbalance in that case). Of course most cases aren't that black and white and most people with mental health issues will be in a sort of grey area, but hopefully you get my point. I am not a medical professional, so don't just take my word for it - do your research, talk to your Dr, listen to your Dr. But that's my 2 cents.

    I wish the best of luck to you, sounds like you're having a really hard time :( *hug*
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    I just feel so utterly, completely unlikeable right now.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jester View Post
    I just feel so utterly, completely unlikeable right now.
    Why Jester? Has anything in particular set this feeling off?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jester View Post
    I just feel so utterly, completely unlikeable right now.
    that's not a nice way to feel :( anything in particular that's made you feel like that?
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    I ended up fighting with my boyfriend earlier and he told me some (not particularly nice) things his sisters had said about me. It made me realise that I am to them, what my brother's wife is to me (I cannot abide the woman).

    But I've barely interacted with his sisters, so it sucks that they've formed this opinion of me. And I know his some of his friends have 'mixed feelings' about me (when expressedly asked, they said they liked me, but previous comments/actions say other wise).

    All I wanted to do was find a friend to spend tonight with because my boyfriend is out (that's how the argument started, he said I was saying he couldn't go out, which I had never, ever insuinuated in the slightest). But I can't even get friends to come over and socialise because 'I live too far away'. Yet I'm never invited to go to their place, so I never have the option to 'walk that long distance' (it's only twenty minutes, if that, but everyone seems to complain and just leave me out because they can't be bothered).

    So apparently my boyfriends family don't like me, his friends don't like me, and even my own friends, here, in this city, seem pretty indifferent towards me.

    And I just feel worthless and unlikeable. I try to be a good person, I try to be pleasant and polite to everyone (example, there;s this one girl on our course who everyone dislikes, but I always try to engage her in conversation because she's human and it's sh!tty to leave people out), but apparently that's not enough. I am unlikable, apparently. I don't even feel like my boyfriend likes me at the moment, the way he has been acting recently.

    Bleh. I'm probably over reacting. That's what my boyfriend says. But I miss having a friend who I can just turn up on their doorstep and cry on their shoulder and watch crappy movies with until everything feels better. But while everyone is doing that for each other, no one even wants to grab a coffee with me, let alone help make me feel better.
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