General Relationship Thread

[Dollymix]

have seen my boyfriend for a grand total of 18 days in the last six months which has been pretty rubbish.

I know how this feels. My boyfriend and I live in different countries and it is difficult. He was ill and missed a visit so I saw him this week for the first time in over three months. The hardest bit is parting again. It leaves me feeling so ...bleh and empty. He went home last night so, thats us till May sometime. :(
Still we have been doing this for four years now and whilst it's hard- if you love one another, you'll make it work.

[fear_the_shedevil]

It's good to hear that people can last in this type of situation. It gives me more hope

[KieraMoon]

It's good to hear that people can last in this type of situation. It gives me more hope

Yea, same here.

[Laura - Marie]

Ive been with my boyfriend 3 1/2 years. We got together on my Gap Year and spent pretty much all our time together, seeing each other every day etc. Then I went away to uni (he didn't - he's 4 years older and already working) which is about 3 hours away by car. We still saw each other every weekend though and to be honest, being apart in the week meant that when we saw each other at weekends, we really enjoyed and made the most of our time together. Fast forward to my third year at uni (now) and because I study Spanish, I have to spend a year in a Spanish speaking country. So now Im working in Gran Canaria and I have seen my boyfriend for a grand total of 18 days in the last six months which has been pretty rubbish. However, I wouldnt change anything - spending some time apart I think has been really good for us. We've both been able to do our 'own thing' for a bit which has been really cool i.e. making new friends etc. We both trust each other implicitly and make the effort to speak on the phone, webcam, send letters, parcels etc and I have to say we are as in love as ever (sicky I know) So I think my point is that long distance relationships CAN work - if anything being apart from my lovely boy has made me appreciate him more and make more of an effort with him when we are together. Sorry about the essay...!!

Thats really sweet, good that your also enjoying it

[Youki-Hi]

It's weird, my boyfriend and I are apart from one another for the Easter holiday. I've not felt really sad yet, but I've done Long Distance before so it's not really an issue. He's taking it pretty hard though.

[KieraMoon]

My bf just told me he can't come over for my 21st. It's just one disappointment after another. I don't know what to do anymore.

[Youki-Hi]

Snap. But my one wants to move out yet theres nothing wrong with the relationship! Now I remember why I swore never to date someone the same age as me...

To put things from his point of view though if you guys last, which he's assuming, then he's going to live with you forever, however he's never going to have the opportunity to live with his friends again. I know I'm not going to move in with my bloke until after uni because I want to live with my friends, it's not that I don't want to live with him, it's just that I can't live with my friends after uni but I can live with him after uni. What's a couple of years compared to a lifetime?

[Laura - Marie]

My bf just told me he can't come over for my 21st. It's just one disappointment after another. I don't know what to do anymore.

How come he cant come over?

[KieraMoon]

How come he cant come over?

He has to do a course for work. It's not that, it was just how he did it over msn. It's like he didn't care.

[Laura - Marie]

He has to do a course for work. It's not that, it was just how he did it over msn. It's like he didn't care.

Yeh I can understand why you would be a little ticked off, I would!


ps. Have a nice bday (for whenever it is haha)!!