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    I know what you're saying hun, and I agree. And I'm really happy that he can talk to me about it. He rang me up as soon as he'd finished talking to her. I just don't really know what to say. I go clinical on him because like I said, I work with depressed people.

    I used to say to my friends before that I was the sex and she was the friend. In some ways it's true. I know if he could he'd move up to be nearer her (she lives in Newcastle, he lives in Chesterfield and me in Lincoln).

    I'm not making much sense, it's just because of what happened at the weekend (another long story) it's just made me so unsure of everything.
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    Quote Originally Posted by catxXx View Post
    Heh, Nefarious is the name of Shannon's daughter is it not? Shame she shares it with a feline!
    I got the idea for the name from her .

    And Helen, that totally sucks but there'll be a reason he's with you and not with her. If he loved her that much he'd be with her. He's probably just going through a tough time emotionally because of seeing his friend get hurt and treated so badly and possibly feels powerless to help. Talking to him about how you feel could help and explain to him that you feel like he's putting her before you in a way you don't feel comfortable with. Hope you're ok.
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    Quote Originally Posted by trivium11 View Post
    Oh I can be stubborn too you know. VERY stubborn.

    Wassup Helen?
    I'm the kind of person that if you said you'd divorce me I'd show you the door :P
    Goodbye and thanks for all the fish.

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    Quote Originally Posted by starless_dark View Post
    I got the idea for the name from her .

    And Helen, that totally sucks but there'll be a reason he's with you and not with her. If he loved her that much he'd be with her. He's probably just going through a tough time emotionally because of seeing his friend get hurt and treated so badly and possibly feels powerless to help. Talking to him about how you feel could help and explain to him that you feel like he's putting her before you in a way you don't feel comfortable with. Hope you're ok.
    Thanks hun. If we had a normal relationship I'm sure this wouldn't be a problem, but just because I'm so scared of him treating me badly like he did before. He didn't so it on purpose, but he just has no idea of how to be in a relationship and he'd a lot going on.

    Now I've got to decide do I see it through, or give it up as a bad job. I got really hurt last time, proper hurt. I'm just so scared.
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    If you're constantly scared about being hurt, you've got to ask yourself if it's worth it. Would you rather be unhappy taking a chance and risking heartache or breaking free and although it feels quite shit being single at first, at least you won't have to worry about the emotional crap, you can just go out and have fun!
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    I actually like being single, and while it was painful breaking up with him last time I felt much better on my own.

    But he has some strange power over me. it took me over a month and a lot of patients before I ended it last time. My friends got so fed up with me! I was constantly crying and miserable yet wouldn't end it! If you go back a few million posts on here you'll see gash ad Morphie telling me the same!

    While being single would be so much easier, and yes living in fear isn't that great, I just can't end it. in my mind I have to have a really good reason, which is why he has to do something awful before I will. I should of done Sunday, I had the chance but instead of saying 'No, you've broken my heart and ruined my weekend' I'm like 'yea, I'll see you in an hour'

    I love him.

    Argh.
    Last edited by KieraMoon; 08-28-2008 at 03:03 AM.
    My Name is Helen and I ENJOY being single!!

    Now Piercings
    1st, 2nd, 3rd and 4th lobe x 1.6
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    Navel 1.6
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    Quote Originally Posted by trivium11 View Post
    I want kids. 2 to be exact their names shall be:

    2 boys:
    Mickael
    Alex

    2 girls:

    Claire
    Alex

    boy and girl:

    Mickael
    Alex

    Either way one of my kids will be named after either Alex Webster or Mick Thompson. My heroes
    id like only 1 little sh*t really

    if its a girl samantha after my late best friend

    and if its a boy sidney after sid wilson

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    im calling all my children jeff.... i just need to register the births before the boyf gets there..... because he wont let me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KieraMoon View Post
    I actually like being single, and while it was painful breaking up with him last time I felt much better on my own.

    But he has some strange power over me. it took me over a month and a lot of patients before I ended it last time. My friends got so fed up with me! I was constantly crying and miserable yet wouldn't end it! If you go back a few million posts on here you'll see gash ad Morphie telling me the same!

    While being single would be so much easier, and yes living in fear isn't that great, I just can't end it. in my mind I have to have a really good reason, which is why he has to do something awful before I will. I should of done Sunday, I had the chance but instead of saying 'No, you've broken my heart and ruined my weekend' I'm like 'yea, I'll see you in an hour'

    I love him.

    Argh.
    I'm going to say you need to break up with him. I had this with my ex and know exactly how you feel, whenever he wanted to get back together, there I was perfectly happy to do so even though I knew in the back of my mind that I was fine without him, until he texted/messaged whatever.

    A relationship isn't worth having if you are constantly destressed about what and when he is going to hurt you intentionally or not. If you need a reason the above is the right reason, living like that doesn't give you any form of stability at all and that's not what you need. It is obviously your choice and we are here for you to rant, but I think for your own sake it's time to let him go, it's upsetting and it takes time, but you know for yourself that it can work without him, you seem really happy being single and an incredibly strong person!

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    what can you do when the spark is gone? ive been with my partner for 7 years, weve lived together for 5 and i dunno, i love him and i want to be with him but like before i moved in with him i used to get a fluttery feeling in my tummy when he cuddled/kissed me and i could just spend hours snuggled up watching tv with him and when i thought about him i would get a big smile on my face and get a little shiver, how do i get that back?

    we live and work together, we run our own business so getting another job is not an option and i dont want to have to move out

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