Kids v No Kids

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Originally Posted by swimmingthroughrain

I can't really say anything about accidental pregnancies except to say that I would not have an accidental pregnancy because I am consciously making the decision not to have kids, and this decision informs all of my other decisions that could possibly affect my decision not to have kids. People get pregnant accidentally all the time and are happy and love their kids, it's just that this is not a path I want to take.

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its not a choice, its an accident. you could take the most effective form of birth control and it could fail, and you could get preganant.

personally i think i want children but not for a decade or so. there's so many things i want to do before having children. but for all i know it may happen sooner, later or not at all due to unforseen circumstances.

Tbh i'd be excited to carry the baby, the birth scares me. i just cant imagine pushing a baby out of me. But also as recently a family friend had a baby by cerseaion but they broke his leg as they took him out, and another woman i know was told to push much too early. consquently she now has terribly knee/ back pain. she has to use a wheelchair to go long distances. however when i was 3 i saw the birth of my sister, at home. as far as i can remember it all went ok, without complications. as i was born at home as well, i think i'd much perfere to home a birth.

its pregnancies on purpose at really young ages that concern me, i know somebody whose only reason at 15 to get pregnant was that at 16 she would get her own place and more benefits ...... that i think is disgusting. I know others who have had like 5 children mainly for the money and have never worked a day in their life.

Young people who "accidentally (i.e were using the pill and condoms etc)" get pregnant who step up to the challenge , work and look after their children well are fantastic, especially those who sill complete college and their degrees even after having a child young. A big well done to them.

Young people who dont use anything and wonder why they get pregnant are either stupid or totally uneducated in contraception, i know at school i wasnt taught until my last year even tho i know for a fact people were sleeping together in second year thru to 5th year, i didnt even know there were clinics which were confidential , the places to get the morning after pill etc until i was 15.5. My first time the condom split and i still had no idea where to get the morning after pill and i was 16 , thankfully i googled and found that boots stores give you it for free and i took that.

If my contraception failed (implant) and i became pregnant then id keep the child as my mother is a childminder and my current OH who said he was a big baby was actually 7lb so thats a good sign .

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Originally Posted by bekki2308

its pregnancies on purpose at really young ages that concern me, i know somebody whose only reason at 15 to get pregnant was that at 16 she would get her own place and more benefits ...... that i think is disgusting.

Young people who "accidentally (i.e were using the pill and condoms etc)" get pregnant who step up to the challenge , work and look after their children well are fantastic, especially those who sill complete college and their degrees even after having a child young. A big well done to them.

Young people who dont use anything and wonder why they get pregnant are either stupid or totally uneducated in contraception, i know at school i wasnt taught until my last year even tho i know for a fact people were sleeping together in second year thru to 5th year, i didnt even know there were clinics which were confidential , the places to get the morning after pill etc until i was 15.5. My first time the condom split and i still had no idea where to get the morning after pill and i was 16 , thankfully i googled and found that boots stores give you it for free and i took that.

If my contraception failed (implant) and i became pregnant then id keep the child as my mother is a childminder and my current OH who said he was a big baby was actually 7lb so thats a good sign .

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i must agree. know a woman like this. she took a year out, then finshed her a-levels , and is now doing a degree. of course its difficult, but theres no doubt it can be done

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Originally Posted by bekki2308

Young people who "accidentally (i.e were using the pill and condoms etc)" get pregnant who step up to the challenge , work and look after their children well are fantastic, especially those who sill complete college and their degrees even after having a child young. A big well done to them.

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Yes! this is my sister! she left "regular" high school if you like, and had to go to a mums and tots school to finish her GCSE's of which she was only allowed to take her maths, english and science! she got a flat, and has basically dun everything for herself since the day she found out she was pregnant! given the path she was actually on, her having a baby was a god-send! actually straightened her out!

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Originally Posted by bekki2308

If my contraception failed (implant) and i became pregnant then id keep the child as my mother is a childminder and my current OH who said he was a big baby was actually 7lb so thats a good sign .

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this however, makes no sense to me! you would keep the baby cos your mother is a child minder? erm, pfft! im lost! x

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Originally Posted by sambalina

this however, makes no sense to me! you would keep the baby cos your mother is a child minder? erm, pfft! im lost! x

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i meant that right now as im a part time student and work full time my mother would be able and willing to look after my child while i continued to study and work towards me and my childs future etc and id know my child would be looked after well.

Otherwise I abort as I wouldnt not be willing to stop studying and working to look after a child and have no money and no real future type thing.

I know what i mean, its all in theory type thing my implant is 99 point something % effective so its unlikely to happen.

Even abstinence isn't 100% effective, I mean look at Holy Mary.

Hahaha.

I find that I'm using condoms less often than I did, but I do still take birth control so it's not a problem.
However, I do choose to use condoms, it's just sometimes I don't have the money to buy them.
I think as long as you're trying to use some kind of method of birth control (besides the pull out method, urgh), you're entitled to an abortion because you weren't being totally careless.
This is kind of off topic though.

Pull out doesnt work coz there are litle impatient spermies who get out early!

I know, that's why I don't think it counts as a responsible way of preventing pregnancy.

I no people who use it lol