Kids v No Kids

*tuts, shakes head and says nothing*

Howz this for suckish... I'm allergic to tea, bananas and one or two of the ingredients in the pill lol!!! And I'm not allowed the implant for various medical history issues...

Condoms all the way, hey? ;)

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Originally Posted by DavyBobMacca

*tuts, shakes head and says nothing*

Howz this for suckish... I'm allergic to tea, bananas and one or two of the ingredients in the pill lol!!! And I'm not allowed the implant for various medical history issues...

Condoms all the way, hey? ;)

Try the coil?

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Originally Posted by bekki2308

I no people who use it lol

They're not very smart then..hah.

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Originally Posted by tacosareyummeh

They're not very smart then..hah.

Lol theyre stupid bt there u go

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Originally Posted by bekki2308

Try the coil?

I've looking into it... But to be fair... It doesn't look like I'm gonna be getting any for quite a while lol...

Although I do know sex has a habit of creeping up on you when you least expect it. And no. I don't mean rape! ;)

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Originally Posted by DavyBobMacca

Although I do know sex has a habit of creeping up on you when you least expect it. And no. I don't mean rape! ;)

haha tell me about it! which kind of led to me being really stupid last week and not using anything. :poster_oops:

which then got me thinking about this thread. i've always been massivley against having children, at least before i was married and had a stable job and income, but this week i have though that if i did turn out to be pregnant, i feel ready now to try and step up and take responsibility. definitely firmly in the kids camp for now.

Lol - well good luck whichever way it goes ;)

[QUOTE=IckleNatStar;1128957]I'm not sure nature "planned" anything Nick[/QUOTE]
That was my point entirely. It didn't plan for life to be a bed of roses. It didn't plan for man to grow and develop nuclear weapons. It simply cannot. Nature is what it is, we just have to go with it.

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Originally Posted by swimmingthroughrain

Having kids is a pain. Kids make messes, stress you out, limit what you can do and when, and how it can be done. There's actually a line in the book White Oleander that made me realize even more that I never want kids. It's when the mother of the main character is describing to her daughter how nice it was when she abandoned her for a year and just did whatever she wanted. It made me realize that if you're not 110 percent invested in having kids, you shouldn't have them.

The point of MY life is to enjoy it as much as possible. As human beings we were given the ability to rise above instincts, and do other things with our lives besides reproduce. I choose to enjoy other things in life. I want to travel, learn languages, get tattoos and piercings, graduate college, learn about the world, and better myself.

I don't think there's anyone who can deny that with a child, these things would be much, much harder to accomplish. Even finishing school. I had a classmate who had to have her parents watch her 2-year-old while she was in class. It was a hardship for them, and for her. Having kids is great for the people who have made the decision to invest their entire lives in it. For everyone else, I really think being childfree is the best option, especially for those who feel pressured to have kids by society or family but don't really want kids. I get asked why I don't want kids, but nobody ever seems to get asked why they DO want them.

Life is always harder when your attention is having to be divided between more than just yourself.

And yeah, people have asked me why I want kids, and I tell them why too. Just because. Not because I want to be a homework tutor or a disciplinarian for 18 years. Just because. Sure, I know the road ahead is tough, I already know this having a 3yr old daughter and a 10yr old stepdaughter. And with bump on the way, it's going to get a whole lot more challenging yet. Does this worry me? No. Not really, because as a human being, I thrive on challenges. I love to work through the crap and get to the other side and say "I've accomplished XY and Z". These challenges make us who we are, and having children is a challenge I would not swap for all the tea in China, all the Porsche 911's in the world, all the money in the world. Life is a whole different (imho better) ball game with kids involved.

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Originally Posted by sambalina

its this that differentiates our species from the rest of the animal kingdom! we have the intelligence to make choices, determine our own paths in life!

what about those people who didnt choose to get pregnant tho? accidental pregnancies are more and more common especially among teenagers! even tho these people havent chosen to be parents, they step up! (well, most do!) their lives are put on hold while they raise a child! but they do it! x

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Originally Posted by swimmingthroughrain

I can't really say anything about accidental pregnancies except to say that I would not have an accidental pregnancy because I am consciously making the decision not to have kids, and this decision informs all of my other decisions that could possibly affect my decision not to have kids. People get pregnant accidentally all the time and are happy and love their kids, it's just that this is not a path I want to take.

Most people love their kids. It doesn't mean that everyone should have them. Loving or not loving your kids has nothing to do with whether you were financially and emotionally equipped to raise a child to the age of 18, and sometimes beyond (my friend still lives with his parents due to a number of unfortunate circumstances, at age 23, and they have to nag him to take his medication and shower and change his clothes and even EAT).

Having a child is a life-altering, permanent decision. It's amazing how many people drift through life not giving it a second thought.

That's the beauty of being human. We can make the choice. Dawn and I made ours, as did other 'wanting' parents. Some people (my best friend and cousin) for example choose to spend their lives sans infant. Are they any less happy than me? Who can say? They sure seem happy. Dawn and I are happy.

Children do not validate a relationship, but they can and more often than not do, enhance it. It can also go the other way and cause stress......but hey, so does life in general. Work can cause stress, it can also bring jubilation to some peoples lives.

Ultimately, as individuals, we cannot tell other people what to think or to choose, because we are exactly that, individual. For some, children is a choice, for others it is not. We have to respect that and go with it, much like we have to go with what life throws at us.

I have found the perfect contraception - become a lesbian! :D

i like it :)