Aye, but try forcing someone with arachnaphobia to get a pet tarantula?
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Aye, but try forcing someone with arachnaphobia to get a pet tarantula?
Personally I don't think I would ever have an abortion but I can't honestly say until I am in that situation. I don't think anyone should ever be judged for having an abortion, however I do feel upset about people who seem to use it as an alternative to contraceptive (i.e routinely don't use contraception and have multiple abortions). I don't think people who have abortions are murders, as it isn't a fully formed life until its proved that it can live independently to the mother.
I do get a bit unsure of my opinion when a woman choses not to have an abortion (which is her right) but the man does want one, but then the man is forced to pay for the child and is judged for not being around. Yes, I know that the man is the biological father but if he didn't want the child then should he be forced to pay for it, and care for it?
I know there was a case a little while ago where a woman wanted to use a feotus that she had created when she was with her ex-partner (which is now frozen for future use), but he didn't want her to use it becuase he didn't want a child with some one he was no longer with. The court did rule that she couldn't have a child using that foetus as he didn't agree. Should there be a similar ruling on pregnancy?
I don't know the answer to these questions and I don't think there are right or wrong answers but I'd just thought it would be interesting to get peoples opinions.
i can answer this, my sons father didnt want anything to do with him right from when i told him i was pregnant, it wasnt something he wanted at all and told me that. i chose not to have the abortion and to have the child on my own. and i fought like mad to keep from having to file for child support, i eventually had to tell quite a few lies to get an exemption from filling. i believed that because it was my choice to have the child on my own that he shouldnt have to pay for that.Quote:
Originally Posted by Emily-S
so no i dont think that the father should have to pay support if he didnt want the child, its the mothers choice to have the child on their own so they should support the child. but its very very hard to convince the courts that you shouldnt file for child support. at least in australia it is
Snap - when my nephew was born i used to freak out when i tohught that my mum would want to babysit him overnight. The thught of him screaming for hours just sent me into a panic attack, Now he's getting older its not so bad, but im still not sure that i want him overnight lolQuote:
omg this is what happens to me!
Really?? I wish that was the case here. Well, maybe it's easy enough to FILE for it, but actually getting it from a reluctant father? HA!Quote:
Originally Posted by danni
My dad fought so hard against it I ended up in court as a witness against him at the age of 7. To this day and at the age of 24 I have never received a penny. Not so much as a pair of shoes. I think I've had 2 birthday cards, one with a WHOPPING £50.
He's claimed bankruptcy so many times due to his alcoholism and drinking all his money away the court always gave up.
And all this from a father who really wanted a baby. Just a shame I wasn't a boy he could "take hunting and fishing and shooting" with him like he wanted.
I'm just grateful I had a mum who worked hard at 3 jobs to keep me cos he sodding well didn't contribute to my upbringing. There were days when all we had was an egg and half a carton of milk in the fridge cos we couldn't afford any food. My grandparents have been more parents to me than my dad ever was.
I think it would have been perfectly within my mum's rights to abort me if she'd known the kind of hardship she was going to have to go through as a single mum and that my dad was going to piss off leaving her with all his debts. I couldn't have blamed her.
I don't ever want kids, I prefer animals. A house full of cats would suit me :)
Children.
I'd be happy to have them some day, but at the moment I am much too young.
I love children. But I couldn't eat a whole one.
There, I've done it. I've killed the thread. Take that!
really? not even a 2 yrs old one? maybe you could share it then...
Ok, I laughed I had to answer.
Otherwise, I don't believe I'd be anywhere close to a good mother, I'd just mess up my kids so I'd rather avoid having some.
I wouldnt have any more kids now, id be too scared at how big it would be as my others were 9.8lbs and 12lbs. The thought scares me now and my c section has put me off ever having kids again:( But i love my children more then anything. I was 18 when o got caught with my first and our seconde was planned. Im only 22 but i feel so lucky that i have some one who i can dote on and who loves me unconditionally.