me and my partner definitely want kids, will probably have them alot sooner that id like as he is a older than me and wants them while hes still young as he puts it!
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me and my partner definitely want kids, will probably have them alot sooner that id like as he is a older than me and wants them while hes still young as he puts it!
Surely it should be a compromise?Quote:
Originally Posted by FireyRedHead
You shouldn't feel rushed into having children before your ready, okay he doesn't want to be an old father but he's a guy but there really isn't an upper age limit as to when he stops been able to have children.
He shouldn't make you feel you have to have children before your comfortable doing so!
there has been a slight compromise, not before am 23, so it gives me 3 years!
23 is so young, especially if you're not ready.Quote:
Originally Posted by FireyRedHead
It very much depends on when you as a person are ready. If you're ready at 23 and really want them, great, it;s the right age. If you're having them at 23 in a desperate need to keep your partner happy, it's way too young.
Although having said that my perspective on things is that I'm nearly 23 and can't imagine being pregnant yet. It's something I want, in the distant future. Give me another 10 years please.
Any age is wrong if you're not ready, have kids because you want them not because someone else wants you to!
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Originally Posted by redraven
^^ This!!
Thanks guys I didn't know how to say that without sounding like I was letting my own thoughts on parenthood taint my answer.
I totally agree having children is something a couple should only do when both partners are ready to be parents not just when one thinks it's a good idea and the other agrees to keep them happy!
I know if I "compromised" and had kids when I felt I wasn't ready just to please a partner I'd probably end up feeling a little resentful of the partner and possibly the innocent child.
That's what I think too.Quote:
Originally Posted by WhiteRook
Ever since I was a little kid I've been adamant that I'm adopting an animal and my view on that hasn't changed. I don't dislike kids though. I just connect more with animals, always have.
Same. I know what an animal expects of me and how to meet its needs. It will be loyal to me and doesn't care about differences. A dog or any animal really is one of the best friends you can ever have. I have heard people saying that they felt more devastated when their pet died than when a parent died, some people say this is cruel but it shows that people can have a special connection with a pet that perhaps they never had with a person.
I 100% agree with that!
While I was heartbroken when I lost my grandparents I think losing my cat hit me harder.
I mourned from my grandparents and moved on really quickly, I pined for my cat for months!
I think there is a level of silent, comfort a pet brings that you cannot get elsewhere!