Originally Posted by
katielou
I think I'm actually really lucky in the respect that my mother totally understands my choice not to have children.
She agrees there are many reasons for me not to bother and she's never made comments about missing out on grandchildren. In fact my cousin made her god mother to her daughter so she's kinda got a pretend grandchild right there!
I'd never thought of the hypocritic nature of that before Dungeoneer, I've often been told that I am selfish for not wanting children and to a small degree that upsets me, I mean why is it selfish if I'm chosing not to have a child because I don't think I'd be able to do the greatest job as a mother? Surely it's kinder not to put a child through poor parenting. If I chose not to have children, surely that only affects myself and my partner (who would obviously have to feel the same way I do) so how can that be selfish? How can chosing not to do something be selfish?
However I'd never thought about all those parents (like a friends mother who has 6 kids, is a single mum, has never worked a day in her life and lives on benefits in a council house instead) who I call selfish because they are having children they can't really afford to have, I'd never thought about how they would feel to be called selfish!
Thanks for making me see I was been a little hypocrit there!!!
Mind saying that it doesn't stop me thinking they are!!!!!!!!!!