I think I'm gonna have to get married in Scotland, as you can't have a Humanist wedding over here and I am flat out refusing to have any religious undertones in my wedding...But Scotland is nice I guess, so thats ok.
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I think I'm gonna have to get married in Scotland, as you can't have a Humanist wedding over here and I am flat out refusing to have any religious undertones in my wedding...But Scotland is nice I guess, so thats ok.
oh i know vix :) like i said its my buisness, but im tired of ppl on this forum an other places thinkin that its somthin to do with them how i chose to do things... it isnt.. what i do is upto me an my o/h not them
you may have your veiws, im not arguin over that.... i just dont like how it was stated..
i want what i want....u have what ever u want, i wont turn my nose down at u, i wont say 'ohhh such a hypocrit' cause at the end of the day, its what ever makes u happy
I know it's absolutely none of mine or anyone else's business how you do things. I never said it was. Pointless fact: I also went to Sunday School and the church choir as a child. Since then I've become rather anti-religious, so it comes through sometimes in posts or real life.
btw, for all the peeps planning weddings, http://blackmeringue.co.uk/ is my wedding porn of choice... It has some awesome ideas!
http://offbeatbride.com is awesome.
1. Churches are beautiful.Quote:
Originally Posted by starless_dark
2. They're a massive part of our cultural heritage, far more than just their religious aspect.
3. The most impressive contributes to architechture tend to begin in churches.
4. It's a traditional western thing, some people like that.
5. Some people love the formal setting.
6. They tend to have lovely grounds (not all registry offices do).
7. The bells...I always loved hearing the wedding bells ringing and I want bells ringing at my wedding.
Need I go on?
Why would someone want to ge married in a black dress if it's not halloween? (for tthe record I love gothy weddings...just using it as an example) Why would someone want their wedding buffet in a castle if they're not nobility? Why do some people like to get married dressed up like elves?
People have dreams about their big day...just because they don't fit into anyone's view of the world doesn't mean they're wrong.
BTW not yelling at you or anything, just responding to your question.
EDIT: Personally for me it's the whole schabang. Big fancy church, preferably one dating back to Saxon times with some fan vaulting (only contribution to international architechture England ever successfully sustained. Lovely slinky dress (may already have designed it: Halterneck, Ivory Satin, basically narrow A-line cut but with a train attached and detailing of Burgandy Ribbon). Flower girls. Traditional Vows...all that cheesy stuff.
I've not completely turned my back on religion (kinda impossible in my family) but I wouldn't describe myself as religious. I would love to get married in a church, they're so incredibly beautiful. I also like the tradition. I went to a funeral today and although I'm not religious I still said every prayer and sang every hymn. Does that make me a hypocrite? It's a tradition deep rooted with me and I don't have to be religious to appreciate it.Quote:
Originally Posted by starless_dark
Also, churches dont tend to care if you're not that religious as long as you're not rude about it.
I can see both sides of the situation but i do side more with stef.
I'm not religious, and I to be honest would not want to be wed before the eyes of someone I don't believe in, to be bound in marriage by a force i dont consider existent doesn't feel right. Not saying i'd feel like a hypocrite, it just wouldn't feel right.
There are a lot of places in the world that are beautiful for non-religious reasons and i'd prefer my wedding to be about my husband and not the building because that's the reason for the wedding in the first place!
I do loves churches, i think they're beautiful and i love visiting cathedrals aswell but when the time comes i dont think i could be married in one. Despite the fact i went to a Church of England infant and primary school, attended church, sang hymns etc, not my cup of tea
I'm having a totally unconventional wedding... I'll probably wear black, mainly cos it suits me, and then I have license to wear nice coloured make up and accesories. I dont think I'll wear a traditional wedding style dress, just whatever I like from All Saints or something. Something pretty that I wouldnt usually wear or pay for!
I think the plan is to hire out one of our favorite clubs as a venue, and have all the music as drum'n'bass and electro stuff... I thik the first dance somg is gonna have to be F*ck The Pain Away by Peaches!
I was always planning to just do a registry office in jeans ans a tshirt, as I am probabaly the least romantic and sentimental person in the world, but I figured it's a good excuse for a party, and something I will hopefully only do once so I may as well do it in style!
youki an chrissy summed it up better than i could...