how meany times do i have to tell you pete, i wont be your bit on the sideQuote:
Originally Posted by trivium11
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how meany times do i have to tell you pete, i wont be your bit on the sideQuote:
Originally Posted by trivium11
But Andy, you said you would be. How could you let me down like that?Quote:
Originally Posted by gandy
I would be interested to know if any other girl has this problem -
My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other almost a year and a half. Love each other to bits. But I'm an insecure cow sometimes! I'm 24, he's 29 and I've only had 2 proper bfs before him - he's had more than that (not sure of figures)
I'm always very open about my exes, if we're out and I see one of them I'd introduce them as my ex, no beating about the bush.
On Gav's birthday we were out with 4 of his male friends and one of them said his sister was coming along. Me and her were the only 2 girls and I tried to make polite conversation but she was quite...strange. She'd say stuff like "oh has he still got that awful sofa" or "does he still not do his dishes" and I slowly caught on that she was an ex. She was also a bit of a bitch but off topic... So I was pretty upset when we got back home because he hadn't just been open about who she was. If I'd been prepared for that I don't think it would have bothered me - we all have a past after all.
But the same almost happened recently - we've both been invited down to an old work colleague of Gav's little boy's birthday in Dundee. I asked how he knew her, he said just friends through work and I joked "I bet you went out" and he said no, just good friends. But we were looking through his old photo albums last night and there were an awful lot of photos of her and I said "are you SURE you two didn't go out?" and he said "well we did, but not exactly what you'd call bf and gf"
And that made me go in a funny mood all over again. We talked about it and he said they were never special, just people he went out with because he didn't want to be alone more than because he really liked them. And I know that's the truth because he's a honey and I shouldn't be such a freak about stuff like this.
I think it's down to the fact if I'm not told the truth from the beginning then I make up conclusions of my own and they're usually far worse than the actual truth.
Is it just me that would rather know their ex's history and therefore be more prepared for when you do meet exes he's friends with? Or am I a freak for wanting to know? Ignorance is bliss etc?
Maybe he didn't introduce her as an ex as he doesn't think of her like that anymore? Maybe she truely is just a friend to him now. People work funny ways, my boyfriend knows my ex but when talking about him he's a friend not an ex, just because that's the way I see him... as a friend rather than 'someone I went out with once'.
I completely agree. I'm the same, if someone doesn't tell me something I'm there thinking all sorts of crazy reasons why they didn't tell me. Like "oh my god maybe they're cheating on me with her." which is crazy. And I also think honesty is really important in a relationship me and my boyfriend agreed to always tell the truth even if it'll hurt the other person because it's just better for everyone involved. He still hides things from me sometimes which really upsets me, but at least he never lies.Quote:
Originally Posted by Tegoz_Marianos
I wouldn't put up with it and you really shouldn't have to.
Yeah, it makes you totally paranoid and you start thinking "is he not telling me because she was really special to him and it hurts to think of her? were they engaged? Oh my god what if they were engaged!!" etc etc.
Which is stupid because everyone has history, it's all those shitty girlfriends who made him appreciate me more :D
But yeah I just wish guys were more open about exes and things. I just hate finding things out second hand
ah well....*leaves thread*
I've never felt quite so crap....
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Originally Posted by HELLS_MoNkEy
Tom!!Nooooooooo
*huggles* :( :(
*hugs tom really tight* :(
also, about the exes. im weird in the way that for some reason, some of sawyers exes are very like.. threatening to me. i get kind of quietly upset when he mentions that Em texted him, i dont know why i dont like the guy, and im sure sawyer is over him, i just don't know... But then there's other exes, like Meghan who we've totally hung out with together and I feel fine about. and i get a bit upset when it comes up in conversation somehow about like a one night stand sawyer had before. i dunno why certain things set me off.. :S
Tommmmm, what happened? =/Quote:
Originally Posted by HELLS_MoNkEy