General Relationship Thread

Ok so I have something to ask.

So I'll start with the history. I dated my second girlfriend for 1 year and 3 months from the age 17 to 18. We hit it off and but about a year in we began fighting a lot so after a big fight she dumped me. I wasn't really done with her but it was permanent. That was in October. I had a rebound that I didn't talk to her much about cause I didn't want her to know but she found out. After I broke it off with the girl I rebounded with, I felt incredibly bad for the girl because she was really nice and still likes me. However my ex... her names Kate, it's easier and she'll never find out. Kate would constantly rub it in my face saying I was an asshole and a player which really hurt cause she knows how I hate players. Then she started to constantly talk to me about guys and how so many ask her out but she says no cause she doesn't want to date anyone.

I don't like her anymore... BIG SURPRISE! but I thought, I'll still be her friend. Yet all she does is judge me. She asked about what I did after we broke up, so i told her I went out and partied, drank and got high with my friends which was something I never did while dating her cause she didn't like it. And now she doesn't let that go. I got into a fight with my best friend cause he's become retarded and I stopped talking to her but she constantly assumes I'm spineless and hung out with him after he told everyone retarded things about me. She constantly rolls her eyes at me and its really getting on my nerves.

Now the question:
Should I bother being her friend? She sweats the little details and doesn't let things go, but she's been a friend of mine for 4 years and is best friends with my other close friends. I don't hate her but she pisses me off... I don't know what to do and I can't talk to anyone about this.

It sounds like you're getting absolutely nothing out of this 'friendship.' If you two are part of the same group, I'd suggest being civil and chill when you're all together, but you don't need to remain close to her if the relationship isn't friendly or productive.

My 2 cents.

I agree with that, If she's a part of your group of friends then perhaps being more like acquaintances than friends would be for the best.

OR you could try talking to her about what she does that annoys/upsets you and ask her to stop. Sometimes people just need a kick up the arse to realise that they're being a bit of a tool.

Here we go...round 23456 with the boyfriend.

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Originally Posted by Pineapple

OR you could try talking to her about what she does that annoys/upsets you and ask her to stop. Sometimes people just need a kick up the arse to realise that they're being a bit of a tool.

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I wish that would work but when I talk to her she just turns it around. Being civil doesn't work either, cause I'm the clown of the group so I constantly tell jokes and be stupid and enjoy myself but all she does is make crass judgmental comments.

rob <3333

the amount of messages i've had today saying he misses me! he stayed at the flat last night, coz he came out for steph's birthday which was EPIC, and we got drunk, and had a wicked time and eeeeeee. was the first time he'd met steph and i was SO nervous, but they got on really well, and he got on with her fella and her whole family too, which was wicked and just made me love him more!! XD

he left today coz he was taking the horse to a cross country ride, (i was supposed to be riding but was obv in immingham spending time with steph) and he text me loads saying he misses me and loves me and... ahh

is happee

So good news! Kyle texts me today and says "I wanna tell you something". So I asked what and he said "I don't wanna do the break". Yay, I'm so happy! I was really worried he was going to tell me he did want to do the break thing, so I was happily surprised.

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Originally Posted by missyb-oh3

So good news! Kyle texts me today and says "I wanna tell you something". So I asked what and he said "I don't wanna do the break". Yay, I'm so happy! I was really worried he was going to tell me he did want to do the break thing, so I was happily surprised.

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thats great news! :) <3

PeteTLT, maybe you need some space. After my big break-up we tried being friends. Either just yelled at each other or ended up hooking up (whoops). Then we didn't speak for like a year and after that it's been fantastic. He's really sweet these days and we can just ignore issues we used to argue about.

How am I supposed to have relationships knowning I'm going to end up with him anyway..?

Grr sometimes love is bloody confusing. haha.

*No advice needed, just a mini vent*