General Relationship Thread

Ah, well if he's been cheated alot on in the past, then that could explain his insecurity. Also the fact that alot of guys (and girls! xP) would easily fancy you probably makes him even more insecure and jelous of other peoples attention towards you.

But bleh, it's not helping you, or helping to sort anything out, if he just keeps going on about the same thing. Blaming everything on you isn't nice either.
He probably keeps mentioning being hurt because he craves more reassurance and comfort from you - however he's not exactly going the right way about it. And like you said, you explained things to him, and you said you don't crave other guys comments etc.

Pssh, men!

If he's not going to co-operate, and continues to have a go at you, then just don't reply, as it must be really draining you :( you need a break! you haven't done anything wrong.

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Originally Posted by black_thorn

Yehh it's like every girl he's been with has cheated on him.. so ofc that's what he is insecure.

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If you want the advice of someone similar (I've not been-well probably have been cheated on but I've had random dumpings from girlfriends aalll the time) anyone, the point is when that happens, you do become insecure, paranoid, expecting the worse and jealous.
The solution is to give them LOTS of reassurance and affection, let them know they're the only guy for you
It's annoying I know, but if you really like them it's worth it in the end...
Or you could always tell them to grow some balls, but we all know how sucky crap relationships are, and they do leave scars
Anyway, sorry for the essay and good luck :)

hehe thank you
As of now, I'm being ignored I believe.. :/

oh welll
I'm so tired of this :( I just want us to be back to normal :(

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Originally Posted by Youki-Hi

Yeah. It sucks he got hurt and it's vaugly understandable. But he's not accepting it's him at all, it's all you in his opinion. Which is rubbish.

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Yah, I agree with this point tooo. He needs to just take a step back and look at the situation properly. Not get stuck in a warp of blaming you.

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Originally Posted by black_thorn

Blah, he text and says "I dont think you'd cheat, I just think you crave attention and sex compliments from other lads"

hmm. nice.

Well I've said I don't and I don't care what anyone else says or thinks, i don't care about them, I only care about him.
And now I get no reply. Lovely.

:@

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I'd personally text him back and say that he needs to grow himself a back bone if he wants to keep you.

Boys like that really tick me off because in effect they are trying to get you to dump them so they can go ''told you so''

It's irkesome and you shouldn't be the one apologising, he should. You need to make him realise that boys aren't gonna stop complimenting you or saying they think you're hot unless you completely lock yourself in a box.

Having been cheated on by all past girls too, I can tell you that it really does f**k you up, trust-wise.
He seems to be overreacting, but I can kinda see where he's coming from, haha. It'll just take time for him to calm down and get over it tbh.

At least he's a bit overjealous and protective rather than not giving a shit :tongue:

I've been with my boyfriend harry for a year and a half give or take.
relationships are hard work, i find it incredibly difficult sometimes because i'm so sensitive and insecure, but i'm working on that haha
He kicked me up the bum and got me to lose weight and i'm a LOT happier than i used to be but i have a long way to go yet. He is genuine and very matter of fact, he wont go all mushy and read me poetry but he will very sternly say "of course you're gorgeous and wonderful why else would i be with you" or "i dont say this often so listen. you look very pretty" hahaha
i love going to his car shows with him, he's a ford fanatic and has built his escort from scratch.
plus he mus be wonderful cos he came into the beatrix potter world in the lake district with me. albeit having a face like a slapped arse the whole time hahaha
we're not like all our mates who are living together and engaged and having kids blah blah, we're just enjoying being a simple bf/gf couple and having fun.we are only 21 after all.

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Originally Posted by Sweep

Having been cheated on by all past girls too, I can tell you that it really does f**k you up, trust-wise.
He seems to be overreacting, but I can kinda see where he's coming from, haha. It'll just take time for him to calm down and get over it tbh.

At least he's a bit overjealous and protective rather than not giving a shit :tongue:

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I've been cheated on by 3 boyfriends in the past and yet I'm the most relaxed non jealous person ever. My boyfriend is still really close to his exes, doesn't bug me at all, even though the guy I was in love with cheated on me with his ex. It's just something you have to deal with and it's a pretty lame excuse. Everyone has emotional baggage, you just suck it up and deal with it. Not mirror your anxieties on your current partner. Saying "you're going to cheat on me aren't you?" is more likely to make them cheat on you. Self fulfilling prophecy.

My relationship is going amazingly well.

3rd time lucky and everything. XD

third time lucky? You're so lucky.
I'm on relationship number 7. Makes me feel like such a big loser.