General Relationship Thread

I'm going to have to agree with everyone else's advice on not making any rash decisions.

I was with an ex from the age of 16 - 19 and part of me always wondered if I had given the best part of my teenage years to him and was it all a waste. Even though we didn't exactly drift apart, I see it as a learning curve, and also an example of how to never let myself be treated in future!

You have all the time in the world to go out and have fun, it's not just when you're 18, 19 that you can have it, but I would advise you to not just throw away your relationship if there isn't anything hugely wrong with it. Pete and I have a long distance relationship, 2 and a half hour drive away from each other, and we only see each other at weekends but it's nice to have the week to miss each other, and there will be the odd occasion where we don't see each other for a weekend which makes it even better when we do.

Stick it out, see how being at Uni makes you feel, then sit down and think about your next move. Haste makes waste, or whatever they say.

I think what i'm guna do is just stay with him and take things as they come. I meen if anythin does happen that makes me think id be soo much better off without him for the majority of the time, because at the moment its just a minority that i feel it (like once a week or sumat).
Every day as it comes:)

And for uni, ill probly talk to him about it nearer the time. Hes probibly guna wana stay together when i talk to him about that but i cant see it lastin that only while im there. But now he has just told me he is goin to Leeds Met and i think im goin to Uni of Leeds, gah why i dont wana go to uni with him (i know its not the same one but same city).

In a way, you two going to uni's relatively close to each other might be a blessing in disguise.

If you decide to stay together, there won't be the huge issue of long distance things, and if you end up breaking up, then you won't have to really see each other and it's unlikely your paths will cross, which will give you time to both get over it, and hopefully be able to see each other as friends later on.

Now this will sound realy bad but. I realy need to stay friends with him anywho because... his house is were we go lol. Even though me and all my mates will be at uni whenever we come back im guessing that Bens will still be the centre where we all go and if im not still good mates with him then i wont be able to go out as much :(

Im guessin it will be that was because his brother and his mates are basicaly my group but 2 years older and that what happend with them.

Edit: his brother went started goin out with his girl friend at the same age as me and ben, and they split up when they went to uni, after about 2 months.

Today I hung out with a girl I've been hanging with a lot for the past month and when she was heading to class she turned and kissed me before she left then skipped off. I'm on cloud 9 atm but I'm worried. See my last ex was a rebound and I liked her and all but in the end I said we should just stay friends. But she's still acting like we're going out and I just talked to her friend who said she still really likes me (supposedly a sharpied heart in her locker with my name...*gulp*) but I'm into this new girl... I really feel bad just coming out like; HEY GUESS WAT I'M DATING AGAIN AND IT'S NOT YOU! cause that's what I think she's waiting for cause i told her before I wasn't ready to get back into a relationship or really anything, but that was like 2 months ago...

GIRLS!!!! How do I let her down and stay her friend and not have her cry and eat ice cream while her friends say I'm a loser? Cause I like her as a friend, i really want to be her friend, just not her Boy Friend...

Help...

*Edit* To let you know the Ages when it comes to this situation. I'm 18 and the girl I like is 18 and my ex is 16 and in High school while we're in College. (Different school system than england i know)

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Originally Posted by PeteTLT

GIRLS!!!! How do I let her down and stay her friend and not have her cry and eat ice cream while her friends say I'm a loser? Cause I like her as a friend, i really want to be her friend, just not her Boy Friend...

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This part is practically mandatory for girls, there is absolutely nothing you can do about it.

TBH your ex is just going to have to get used to the idea of you being with someone else if that's what you want. You're not in a relationship with her, despite what she may want. Maybe it means taking a break from being friends while you both get used to the situation.

I miss my boyfriend :(
It's not even been 2 weeks since I've seen him and I know I'm going to in 2 or 3 days, but I can't wait anymore!
Too bad I can't even talk to him either.
His sleeping patterns are too f*cked.
He woke up at 1 am last night and went to bed around 1:30 in the afternoon I think.
So he probably won't be up till the same time tonight and I'll be asleep by then..and I don't know if he'll IM me either since he didn't last night..hope he does..this missing isn't normal.

I don't know what the point in me even trying to be with the person I like is.

Double standards do my head in, it annoys me so much that I can't do anything without him getting annoyed with me, including asking things about things he'd be annoyed with me about in a non-annoyed fashion.

Apparently I'm trying to make him feel bad by saying things like 'well, actually you not turning up until 9ish isn't all cool because I've taken time off work to be home early and it means we can't go out because it'll be too late.. but if you're happy to stay in then it's fine I guess =)'..

Or the fact he's had his ex girlfriend staying with him for the last couple of days 'Oh, I'm just going for cuddles now'.. after making me feel so terrible after Saturday for having a FRIEND stay over. He even said to me this morning, if my ex was with me he wouldn't even be talking to me.

I'm scared to say anything to him because everything I say apparently makes him feel bad, it obviously doesn't matter if I feel bad or not though.. because to be honest, I feel pretty rubbish at this moment. Don't want tomorrow to come now.

ARGGGHHH.

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Originally Posted by soozface

I don't know what the point in me even trying to be with the person I like is.

Double standards do my head in, it annoys me so much that I can't do anything without him getting annoyed with me, including asking things about things he'd be annoyed with me about in a non-annoyed fashion.

Apparently I'm trying to make him feel bad by saying things like 'well, actually you not turning up until 9ish isn't all cool because I've taken time off work to be home early and it means we can't go out because it'll be too late.. but if you're happy to stay in then it's fine I guess =)'..

Or the fact he's had his ex girlfriend staying with him for the last couple of days 'Oh, I'm just going for cuddles now'.. after making me feel so terrible after Saturday for having a FRIEND stay over. He even said to me this morning, if my ex was with me he wouldn't even be talking to me.

I'm scared to say anything to him because everything I say apparently makes him feel bad, it obviously doesn't matter if I feel bad or not though.. because to be honest, I feel pretty rubbish at this moment. Don't want tomorrow to come now.

ARGGGHHH.

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What does this mean?!

What a tw*t. He's not worth the time of day. Find someone better