Things are getting stale. I have no idea what to do.
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Things are getting stale. I have no idea what to do.
How long have they been stale for? Because relationships sometimes just suck. If it's not been that long then it's a phase and it'll pass. You could always try livening things up yourself. I realised I'd never get any romantic evenings if I didn't start them myself so arranged candlelit massages, romantic dinners in etc...and now he's got the hint. If you want things to be spicier then you have to do it yourself. Buy a blindfold and feed each other bits of food and you have to guess what they are. Go paintballing. Go swimming in the altogether. Watch a horror film together. Buy some handcuffs. Ask him what his fantasy is and do it. there are loads of things you can do. Life isn't a movie. He's not going to randomly turn up at your door and make things magically better just because you want him too. Relationships are hard work, and sometimes they suck, and it's up to you to decide whether they're worth it or not, but they will vanish or turn rubbish if you don't put in the work.
Sorry to be all squishy guys but I'm just really happy at the moment. Simon's been really trying. Yesterday we spoke on the phone for an hour. ten minutes after we hung up he rang again just to say he loved me. It was really sweet. I miss him.
Maybe a month of so, I've developed a bit of a wandering eye (not that I would EVER cheat on any partner I had) but yeah, I've got to the "Oh wouldn't it be good to be single again" stage and I don't want that 'cause I do love my boyfriend even if I can be a bit poor at showing it.
Thanks for all the suggestions Genni, glad to hear about Simon showing his romantic side :D
It's probably just that you guys have slipped into a pattern. Most relationships end up doing it. At one point I knew exactly when I was going to see Simon every week, to the minute and what we'd do that evening. With some of my exes it's been exactly the same, we'll end up getting into this little weird routine where we do the same things. Taking it back to the beginning and going on dates again and not knowing when you're going to see each other next or when the other one will phone you can really help get those butterflies back.
Sadly it's a bit difficult because we both go to the same college but I finish on the 8th for study leave, he finishes on the 22nd and after his exams, that's it, he's set for university. I can't wait because I think it'll do both of us good; he's very dependent on me and I'm independent in relationships so hopefully it'll give him his chance to stretch his mature independent adult wings and be a bit more assertive and involved in other areas of his life and a bit less clingy.
Brandon should be home in about 5 hours. :)
Really don't feel like waiting anymore though ugh.
Joe is asleep next to me with his arms round my waist and he looks painfully cute! I really do luff him a lot...
Aw how cute. :D
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Originally Posted by nightwolf
yes, I realise now it was a bit of a contradictory statement but ya know, I'm wasted so :tongue:
Plus, noone said it to me. I'm awesome and so cool, I mean, jut look at me>>>> :music-smiley:
LDR's SUCK.
I hate only seeing him one day a week :(