Sound like you are blaming them for being religious tbh. Get over it please. You have to accept them as they are and deal with them like that.
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Sound like you are blaming them for being religious tbh. Get over it please. You have to accept them as they are and deal with them like that.
I don't blame them for it, but when they see me as a bad person because I don't have the same beliefs as them, yes, I do have a problem with that, it's ignorant.
I'll just have to deal with it seeing as I want to be with him. It's worth it.
And anyway, they're not dating me, he is, so long as he wants me around, I'm staying.
Just accept you have different beliefs, and move on. Like it or not, you ARE dating his family to an extent, and I think a quiet word would be a good thing.
In other news... 1 week, squee :D
Forgive me for not seeing nuances or something but isn't it just as hard headed and ignorant to ignore everyone's advice on talking to them by saying "it won't work" without even having given it a go? The same for judging people you hardly know (it's not even been half a year) on their beliefs and something you THINK they think about you? I've been with Simon for nearly 18 months and his parents are only just getting ok with me staying at his house. And Simon and I are loads older than you and Brandon. I don't judge them for it, it's just their way of doing things. His dad will probably never like me, if we end up having kids I bet he'll think I'm not the best person to bring up his grandchildren. But I'm going to give it time and try and get him won over by being nice, ignoring his prejudices and talking to him about it. Why come on a forum with problems when you won't listen to advice? It makes no sense to me. Please correct me if I've missed something or have misunderstood something, I'm just analysing what I can see.
Congrats Foo..all shiney isn't it?
Everyone says I should talk to her, but what to say?!:confused:
Just chat to her, everytime you see them. If you really have to explain yourself, you like their son and you aren't going to go away.
This thread really makes me want to run for the hills, I mean I'm a commitophobe at best..
*yawn* cyclical conversations!
things are super super super squeee with me and liam atm.
we saw each other two weeks in a row :O omg. hah. it's a pretty big deal for us since we rarely have time, money and other commitments to see each other so much :)
n it's four weeks till we go on holiday
and i spent the weekend away with him and his parents, i really liked it cos i just feel a whole lot closer to them. we talk, but never much more than general small talk but we were able to have proper conversations :)
oh i could go on ranting about all these small things that have restored faith in my relationship but i will not bore you all :D
everything's going great for us currently though and i'm going to make the most of it whilst it lasts :P
Get to know her a bit. If you're round for dinner offer to help her with the washing up or something and have some time to talk. Tell her bits about you. Let her realise you're not a bad person. If you want to approach it head on then chat to her, again alone, and say "right, this is quite difficult for me but I'm really serious about Brandon and so I'd like to get on with you and for you to approve." something like that, then tell her you're worried she might blame you for his arrest and tell her how sorry you were when it happened and that you worry about him too sometimes. Ask if you can be of any help getting him over the drugs. Give her the opportunity to ask you any questions she might have.
Either way really. The first is slower and the second one faster. Neither is guaranteed but better than doing nothing. I did it with my exes best friend, just sat him down and went "I have the feeling you don't like me much...please give me an opportunity to prove my case" we had a couple of drinks and a long chat in the pub and he ended up liking me a lot more. Still wasn't my biggest fan but he didn't have the same concerns.
Well, first off, it's not an assumption that they don't like me, I know it for a fact because his parents have TOLD him.
I could try and talk to her but I'm scared and she's not a very chatty type, never was to begin with.
I suppose my best bet is to just be friendly.
I wasn't trying to be close minded, but I just don't think everyone understands exactly how his parents are.
I appreciate the advice all the same.