General Relationship Thread

i think im gonna have to go for a cuddle

just this morning he was asking me to move in with him properly.

this is insane

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Originally Posted by starless_dark

Maaaaaaaaaaaark ^_^ *squee* good luck :D.

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RAAAAAAAAAAAAAAGE I just want to hold some puppiez:furious3::tongue:

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Originally Posted by missyb-oh3

Gah me either. A friend of mine has been on-again-off-again with this girl for over a year. She's constantly belittling him. She bitches at him all the time for the stupidest crap. One time she yelled at him because he didn't know what the weather was going to be like that day. Like, wtf? He used to be such a happy person and now he's all depressed and stressed out about crap. She likes to play these little mind games with him. She'll "break up" with him for a few days, take him back, wait another week or so, and then do it again. She did it 4 times this month alone. This last time he finally realized he doesn't care and is leaving her to herself, which I've been trying to convince him to do for months.

Speech over XD

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I'd like to smack him upside the head. She told him she wants to "slow things down so she can think" and he's waiting around for her. Stupid bi-otch. She's playing with him and pushing him around. And why? Because he's letting her. I can't believe this. I'm beginning to think he'll just continue to let her control him forever. Ugh.

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Originally Posted by tacosareyummeh

I really hate that Brandon's parents don't like me just because we've had sex.
He's 20 years old.
Just because you're religious, doesn't mean you should expect him to hold off on such things until marriage, especially when they know he's not religious.
And even so, he had sex before we ever started dating.
They think I'm such a bad influence on him and the reason he got caught and starting smoking so much pot is because of me.
The fact that his pot intake increased around the time we started hanging out is a complete coincidence, despite what they think.
I never pressured him to do it, in fact, I told him he did it too much!
It seriously infuriates me that they just judge me and don't even know me.
I can't deal with knowing my boyfriend's parents hate me. :/

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then you have to be the grown-up in this and show them that their concerns about you are unfounded, that you are a good influence in his life. You say they don't know you, you will have to change that, not in a confrontational manner as that helps nobody. If you go for the "they hate me and I hate them" head-on approach the only outcome is a loose for everyone.

Try to put yourselves in their position, they love and care for their son and want to protect him in any way they can, the fact that he is 20 doesn't change this (when you are a parent of a 20 year old you will be the same). When someone comes into his life and naturally has a lot of influence on him then they will be on the lookout for anything that looks like a threat, it's your job to show them that far from being the threat you are someone they can trust to help and support him and where necessary use your influence to guide him into doing what he knows is the right thing

How would you feel about Brandon hanging out with someone you didn't know well that you thought was getting him into hard drugs/stealing/mugging or whatever you consider to be a "bad thing" - welcome to being a normal caring human being.

I understand they're just being parents, but they can't blame me for his behavior.
I hate when parents try to pawn off their kids behavior on other ones.
It's like don't you realize your kid is at just as much fault as them?
I don't know what I can do to make them like me.
She's nice to me, but I know deep down she doesn't like me at all and I can't do anything about it.
Because of how religious they are they automatically pawn me off as a bad person just because I'm sleeping with him.
I don't even know what to do with this.

I'm 22 and my mum still worries about me being cold and/or hungry I can only imagine what it'd be like if they thought I was taking drugs. It's utterly ridiculous but it's just the way some parents are. Worrying is what they do.

Just don't let it bother you, and always be nice and polite to them. They'll come around eventually.

Hopefully they do. :/
But they've become so irrational since he's been arrested.
They kicked him out for a bit last night just because he didn't do his chores properly!

What did he get arrested for? And have you made an effort to take them aside and talk to them, y'know, friendly chat and just reassure their worries and whatnot?

Only suggesting because I used to have a lot of problems with bullying and violence at school, and the secretary's daughter was my third girlfriend - you can imagine why she'd be nervous about me. But I rang her up and spoke to her and she said she'd let me have a chance, and eventually we got on really well. :)

ben is an absolute n*b !!!

whyyy?