General Relationship Thread

Well, this weekend has been VERY weird for me and Mike.

We went out Friday night for a friend's 18th and bumped into a guy I recently made friends with. He's very full on and didn't attempt to hide that he liked me when we met, he tried it on whilst I was drunk (good sign of the kind of person he is) and since then, we've not spoken much at all. Anyway, he was VERY drunk and hung out with our group all of Friday night, actually sitting next to Mike and telling him his feelings about me! Initially I was again, a bit flattered because I was also tipsy and he was just being tame about it at first, saying to Mike that he's lucky to have me but then as the night went on, it got so much worse. I was actually talking to my two best male friends at the time this was all supposedly going on but when I was a at the bar, he came up and bought me a shot and we talked. He asked out a girl he didn't really like the other week for reasons unknown to me until that night so I asked how things were and he just gave me this coded message that meant he still liked me (well, I'm seeing how things go with Sophie but I've still got feelings for this other girl, she's got a boyfriend though and etc.) and it just went on and on like this all night until we bailed at one bar and went to takeaway. Christ, how Mike didn't deck him I don't know. He just sat there and put up with it, as the night went on he got angry and was telling him to shut up but cause the guy was drunk, he didn't stop so we just had to get away.

And then yesterday, my very first boyfriend from about 3 and a half years ago added me on Facebook, so I accepted for a laugh and then he was saying how different I looked and how nice looking I'd gotten and gave me his number! I swear to god Mike's invisible to other men, I felt so bad for him, it's really bothered him this weekend. He was really off with me Saturday morning then kind of got over it but I hope he didn't think it was my fault, I never gave either guys a sign of anything. Christ, I hadn't even seen or thought about my ex for years :s

Your boyfriend needs to man up ^^

He should have told this guy to either drop it or f*ck off and made it clear he was not going to stand around and accept him hitting on you. Obviously he cant tell some guy that he isnt allowed to "fancy" you. But there is a line, your boyfriend didnt just let him cross it with no consequence, he let him dance all over it.

You also have some responsibilty and should have made it clear you werent interested and told this guy to accept it or scoot.



Personally I'd have snapped and it would have ended up either with a fight or this other dude getting punched around, but thats no better way to handle it than your boyfriend really. But I really do not know how any guy would just sit about and take that.

Aww that's abit harsh ^ I think it's quite respectable for him to have not started a fight, he did tell him to back off and stuff.

Haha its amazing how when you start to get into a relationship exes come out the woodwork. Such a pain.

He obviously wasnt forceful enough in the way he told him to back off, because the guy would either back of or get riled and start to kick off. At this point, her boyfriend either takes moral highground and asks the bouncer to remove the irrate individual or hits him!

The only time I've known anyone to react differently is when they are so out of their face that it is the clubs interest to have the bouncer remove the individual anyway.

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Originally Posted by TheArctopus

You also have some responsibilty and should have made it clear you werent interested and told this guy to accept it or scoot.

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I'd go with this. That would have made everything a little easier.

The only way to beat off a guy interested to an unhealthy degree is with a Falcon Punch.

I believe the Jim Carey way is the right way!! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=szPQoqjjRcA

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Originally Posted by TheArctopus

He obviously wasnt forceful enough in the way he told him to back off, because the guy would either back of or get riled and start to kick off. At this point, her boyfriend either takes moral highground and asks the bouncer to remove the irrate individual or hits him!

The only time I've known anyone to react differently is when they are so out of their face that it is the clubs interest to have the bouncer remove the individual anyway.

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While it's quite sexy when men fight, 9 times out of 10 you'll be in the dog house for it later on :tongue:

Im not suggesting he should go wading in with a haymaker or flying headbutt. Just that he should be more forceful in how he communicates his discontent. If he is weak in asserting himself to the point where the other guy blatently carries on acting like that then he has failed as what he intended to do i.e. warn this guy to back off (if the guy is so pissed he cant take the warning seriously, he is to pissed to fight too, the bouncers will remove him, they dont want the police crawling all over the place following an incident such as sexual assault alloagation following being felt up on the dancefloor etc which is all too common when some drunk takes an unhealthy interest and doesnt understand the feeling is not reciprocated). In this case he can take a more aggresive stance without actually hitting anyone, push/pull the guy to one side and tell him to f*ck off, its gone to far, chances are he will just leave. If he lashes out, so what, you arent made of glass, this is now self defense (CCTV is on your side) and anything goes!

Girls aren't possessions to be fought over.