General Relationship Thread

I had to go home to get something today and Callum came with. Even just entering the street sends my mood down the "I want to curl up and cry" road. So whilst I waited in the room, clearly really effing down, he pissed about on the laptop. He knew I was close to crying my eyes out yet he just sat there. I told him he was shit at comforting (I know, could've worded it better... I was really upset) and left the room. I came back, sat on the bed... and he continued pissing about on the laptop. The whole ride home, I'm still close to tears. We get home and sit down. At this point, I couldn't hold the tears in anymore cause it was actually beginning to hurt... it felt like he just didn't give a f**k and I said that to him then. After around 10 minutes, I come back, clearly having been crying and sit on the bed. Silence for 10 or so minutes. Then he gets up and disappears to the shower. Not a word said.

And now I'm crying again. Wtf? Is a hug and an "it's okay" too much to ask for...?

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Originally Posted by Tegoz_Marianos

i'm still worried about my moods with bf. It's got to the point where i overheard him talking about it with his friend on saturday. I really want to change and go back to the happy old me but i just don't know what's causing it so i don't know what to do to fix it. Sometimes i just feel really grumpy and depressed and angry for no reason. I have the best boy ever, a new job and nothing to be moaning about.

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i am EXACTLY the same, seriously.
I got my implant just under a year ago, and my boyfriend even tells me he really thinks i should get it taken out because it's changed me. The thing is, this happened before twice on two different pills, which i could change straight away... it's just this implant is no fuss, i don't have to remember anything. I don't want to go back to trying out loads of different pills and finding one that will keep me 'normal' and then having to remember to take them! I hate what this implant is doing to me... but it's the most hasstle free contraceptive (though that's not even a reason anymore because we only have sex once every few weeks because i never ever want to..)

I feel like i'm runing our relationship because of this effing thing in my arm!! :'(

I had such a weird weekend :/

Firstly, Friday night was a disaster. I was ill, he clearly wanted to go out with all his housemates but wouldn't leave me, and just looked thoroughly bored and like he didn't want to be here all night.

Saturday was alright during the day then the shit hit the fan when we went out. He was shouting me from downstairs to hurry up and get ready (which I might add, is two floors down!) and then had a massive go at me from shouting back and 'talking to him like a t*at in front of his housemates, wtf? All I said was along the lines of 'for god's sake I'm coming!' and I was literally coming out of his bedroom door. We were meant to be out for 7, and I was perfectly on time until he decided we should actually go 15 minutes earlier than that. He does it all the bloody time, whenever I've just had a shower/trying to dry my hair and do my make-up, it's like he does it to p*ss me off and he wants to tell me how I take such a long time, like he wants to fight about it with me.

Then he got in a massive strop in Sainsbury's with me when we were getting some money. So yeah, the walk into town was really bad, he came out with all this stuff about how he didn't even want to go to begin with and it'd be shit. So I threw his house keys at him and walked off. Basically, this all started over nothing, and ended with an hour and a half spent walking miles along the river in the freezing cold, both crying and both thoroughly annoyed at each other for the most stupid reasons.

We made up by the time we got home, had a nice lazy day on Sunday listening to music, watching films and eating pizza, ''cuddling'' and just being... Like normal.

But now I feel really down and sh*t because I don't feel like I've had a weekend at all. The only time we went out of the house was when we fell out and... Eugh.

Gerry - Surely it's better to have to remember to take a pill once a day than ruin your relationship?

I know, it's the obvious thing to have this implant out.. i'm just avoiding going through with it. I think the main thing putting me off is that i don't trust the pill... my ex-best friend took her pill religiously and did absolutely everything she was told to. She then had a terrible period which she went to her doctor about... turns out she had a miscarriage! It just puts me off so much, i have no trust in that little tablet to keep me.. safe :/
Just talked to Nick about it all, we're putting me on a 3 month trial :L .. i'm going to monitor my periods (which have been hell for a year) and he's going to monitor my moods... if there's no improvement or it gets worse in three months, it's coming straight out.
Also, i would have had my implant for a full year next month, and whenever i complain about my implant people always seem to tell me that once you get over the 'one year hump' it calms down and you feel fine for the last two years...
I dunno.. :/ But it was nice to have a little chat about it with Nick -& i'm glad he understands that my horribleness is 95% likely to be down to my implant...

a women i work with her daughter got the implant fitted and it realled screwed with her, so when it was time to get it removed she didnt get another put back in she got the coil instead.

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Originally Posted by wallflower

I had to go home to get something today and Callum came with. Even just entering the street sends my mood down the "I want to curl up and cry" road. So whilst I waited in the room, clearly really effing down, he pissed about on the laptop. He knew I was close to crying my eyes out yet he just sat there. I told him he was shit at comforting (I know, could've worded it better... I was really upset) and left the room. I came back, sat on the bed... and he continued pissing about on the laptop. The whole ride home, I'm still close to tears. We get home and sit down. At this point, I couldn't hold the tears in anymore cause it was actually beginning to hurt... it felt like he just didn't give a f**k and I said that to him then. After around 10 minutes, I come back, clearly having been crying and sit on the bed. Silence for 10 or so minutes. Then he gets up and disappears to the shower. Not a word said.

And now I'm crying again. Wtf? Is a hug and an "it's okay" too much to ask for...?

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For men, sometimes, it is.
It may just be a case of him in a shock and not knowing what to do, so he hopes if he just lets you get on with it you'll eventually run out of tears to cry and you can get on with the night.
Either that or he's started to feel like nothing he can do will make you feel better so he's given up, which feels terrible, but I think my boyfriend is the same in this aspect, at least he used to be until I really talked to him about it and he started to be more comforting again.

We spoke... he told me that from the moment he realised I was in a shit mood until we started talking, his brain had been working on something he could do and say. Like the other night, he was the same and he cried and I sat and hugged him and told him how I love him, why I love him and what I love about him etc etc. I literally spoke to him about everything I felt for him for over 3 hours. Because I done that, tonight he wanted to do the same and although I've told him a million times that all I need is a hug, he feels like it's not enough. But he's realised now that doing something is better than doing nothing.

See, told you it was all about the male mind trying to calculate what to do to make it better!
My dad once told me that men try to fix things and when they can't they get incredibly frustrated, which makes them come off as either uncaring or just a d*ck.
Just remember that in the future, and hopefully he'll remember what you said about just needing some kind of comfort, no matter how small it may be.

Right I've done it :) it went fairly ok. I jut had to do it over text because he kept ignoring me, but it seemed to end up ok I think.
So by for now guys!