If I were to marry someone it would be because I felt that I could no longer be without them and that they have become part of me.
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If I were to marry someone it would be because I felt that I could no longer be without them and that they have become part of me.
I don't really see much of a point in marriage full stop - I'm not counting it out completely, but if I do get married it'll be mainly for any tax-related benefits, and/or because my partner wanted to, haha.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mazzawa
But that aside, I don't think it's really as straight forward as that anyway, if I read your question right...I don't believe in 'love at first sight' or anything so the first one seems strange to me (but I do think you can tell pretty soon on if the relationship is likely to last long-term). To get to the point of marriage though, you need to build up trust and love over a period...getting engaged/married straight away because you think you instinctively know would seem really silly to me.
And on a completely different topic, me and my boyfriend keep talking about the things we're going to do when we move out (we're having a maine coon cat called Watermelon :D) without actually ever mentioning moving in together at all. It's way too soon now anyway, if we did move in together it wouldn't be for at least a year or two, but it's a bit weird talking about stuff like that without actually discussing living together. Oh well :tongue: We're also having chinchillas called Harlot and Strumpet hahah (seriously).
my relationship is failing
again
hmm.
he was moaning at me yesterday because i'm not as full of sex beans as him..
but like.. after 3 months of not seeing him n doing nothing my drive's just gone
sooo i explain this to him and he goes off on a sex related rampage.. and i was like okayyy just ignore what i said to you :/
and then i apologised it's because i haven't seen him for ages and asked since he can't/won't get to me, i'll go up and see him ..
andd GUESS WHAT HE'S DOING TO ME AGAIN?!
*steam flies from ears*
From the people I know who have had long term marriages I'd say it's mostly the second one. Marriage is something that you work at and put time into and try really hard to make work and reach compromises with each other. Obviously you need to be in love with them to do that but I think anyone who believes that love will conquer all and that it makes things easy is pretty naive.
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Originally Posted by Mazzawa
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Originally Posted by Mazzawa
I believe that it is a mixture of both. My guy and I recently (a couple of months ago) got engaged. Before we got together we had been best friends for five or so years and always had “something”. When we got engaged we had been dating for six months. A lot of people kind of have the mentality that it’s “too soon” and we’re “too young” (I’m eighteen, he’s twenty).
I believe that when you truly know you want to be with someone…I don’t know how to explain the feeling…but you just know.
I guess we’d built the love, trust and friendship in the years that we had been friends though, so that’s why I’m saying both :D
srsly sarah u need to lose that c*nt and find someone nicer who lives closer maybe????Quote:
Originally Posted by black_thorn
u dont need that crap, your a grown up lady
this canNOT be happening. you know how some things you say in your head, you know what you want from life, and you are convinced it will never change. then BAM it changes and the results are headf*cking.
*hugs for sarah and paranoir (claire?)*
find someone better sarah, seriously
paranoirrr, whats going on??
This is a personal question but has anyone ever had their libido totally disappear? Mine has gone to zilch lately.
yep.but that could be because me and the other half are having problems at the mo.