Foostar suggested it, and its a pretty good idea.
Any needed advice so we can all share expieriances :)
(sorry if this has been done, but an updated version is always good)
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Foostar suggested it, and its a pretty good idea.
Any needed advice so we can all share expieriances :)
(sorry if this has been done, but an updated version is always good)
Yay!
*dance*
I've been with my fiancé for 3 and a half years - got engaged after 6 months but always planned to have a long engagement. Had a LOT of ups and downs, but it's always been worth it :)
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Originally Posted by Foostar
Thats really sweet :) The ups always beat the downs, congratulations! (sp?) :D
I won't lie - it's been bloomin' hard at times. Relationships are far from easy, no matter what anyone says. They need constant work and adaption. I have a horrible habit of taking him for granted :(
You can only expect to reap what you sow. I can't impart much more wisdom than that :P
I'm going through a divorce, and feeling kinda bitter about relationships in general....I think I'm just going to avoid them altogether in favour of something more *ahem* casual ;) That way you're not going to get hurt. Easy peasy!
And Foo...I always find there are ups and downs, but as long as the ups are good enough to make it worthwhile then it's ok. It's when they aren't, or aren't so frequent...that's when you have a problem.
definitely agree Caz, i think if somethings bothering you you need to sort it out, talk things over so it doesnt just spring up one day and make a future argument worse, always talk things over.
i love my boyfriend, been with him for almost a year and a half and i never imagined id have what i have with him and i love him so much, i know i wanna be with him forever and ive never had that feeling with anyone before. although only being 18 i know my feelings could change but i know thats how i feel now :) the thought of committing to him fully is a lovely one for me
tbh I can't talk. I'm a wreck atm but that's what I tell myself.
:( *hug*Quote:
Originally Posted by .Only.Streetlights.
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Originally Posted by Cinnamon_Spider
But, theres always the risk of the casual thing becomeing an attachment, even if its the other person thats attached to you, then feelings can get hurt :frown:
Very true, I suppose you just need to be clear from the outset...not always that easy though.Quote:
Originally Posted by Laura - Marie
That sucks Caz....I do the same, tell people what they should be doing but don't actually act on my own suggestions myself.
That was a hard lesson for me to learn... we nearly split up because we didn't talk enough. I'd mull over something for months, then it'd all come out suddenly and we'd fall out hugely.Quote:
talk things over so it doesnt just spring up one day and make a future argument worse, always talk things over.
Giving advice is much easier than following it
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Originally Posted by Cinnamon_Spider
I tell myself that everyone's like that! But I am making a concerted effort from now on to be a bit less preachy and a bit more focussed. I think it'll last until I wake up tomorrow morning and go back to my everyday drudgery. :P
yup it always sucks when that happens :frown: if anythings bothering me now that includes my boyfriend i tell him and talk it out and we're better off for itQuote:
Originally Posted by Foostar
Same for me - although I still forget sometimes, or find it hard to broach a subject.Quote:
Originally Posted by Felidae
yeah sometimes it can be better to keep things to yourself if you know it'll just cause unnecessary upset but it can be difficult to differentiate between silly things and important things sometimes lol
i've been single for precisely 4 days :) we were together for 3 years and two days exactly. i'm sad, but i'm relieved. now i can move on with my life and be young and free again!
I haven't been single since I was 14. I honestly have no idea what it's like to be without a relationship. It's a fear of mine - should this all fall apart, I'd be totally lost.
im with you on that one, i can't imagine myself without Derrick now, when i imagine my future he's always in itQuote:
Originally Posted by Foostar
i haven't been single since i was 14 either, but i need to get out there and get dating! haha. i used to think i'd die without matt but i haven't yet and i'm really happy so :)
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Originally Posted by Foostar
Thats why my mum tried not too get used to having her last bf around, she didnt want to depend on him so it would be really awful when it ended.
But he lied to us about his age for 5 years, so it ended :mad:
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Originally Posted by TyrannosaurusRhi
If you dont mind saying (you dont have to :)), did you end it?
i don't mind saying at all! i think i pushed for it more than he did, but we had a big argument sunday morning and it split us without us having to officially say 'it's over'. we're talking again, much happier, relief is immense!
things haven't been right between us for months, some days i'd love him, others i couldn't stand him. it was no way to live, so this is definitely for the best :)
Blimey.. why did he do that?!Quote:
Originally Posted by Laura - Marie
I've had seven boyfriends and 'kind of' one girlfriend (it never developed past much because we were both too scared) and with the odd month alone inbetween, I've always been 'taken'. To be honest, most of the time there wasn't a gap between :frown: I've grown up a lot now though.
Aw I had no idea Rhi ((huggle)).
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Originally Posted by Foostar
He was 35 when they got together (he said he was 40), and my mum was 40. So he thought that she would be intresed, so when we went to bournmouth to celebrate his 45, his parents embarrisingly corrected my mum.
I think its the fact that he had lied to her 3 children that really got to her.
and if you can tell a lie like that, you can do anything really
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Originally Posted by TyrannosaurusRhi
Glad your happy about it :) Its good to feel positive about this .
- 1 boyfriend, + 1 friend :D
:) yeah exactly *hugs foo* i'm not actually too upset about it, it's felt like we were more friends than anything for a while so it's just carrying on as normal!
I'm well happy cuz I got meself a new boyfriend just now... johnny. he's like... OMG YEYYEYE!! :D:D:D:D
and I basically NEED to say it to everyoneee! xD
*dies of happyness overdose*
that even possible?
Do tell us all about him :D
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Originally Posted by snicky
Owww Congrats! Good to have some positive relashionship talk :tongue: Hope you are very happy togther :)
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Originally Posted by Foostar
well... his name's johnny, he's one year older than I am, so 16, and he's like...
REALLY SWEET! treats me like a princess, literally (wich is something I never had with tiago, so it just makes me soo happy to actually have someone that cares for me. :D)
he really worries about me, if I'm ok, if I'm happy...
we were like... semi.dating for the last 48 hours. when we started he was like 'give me 48 hours for me to really decide wether to move on or not? cuz I know how you suffered with your last boyfriend, and I don't wanna hurt you...' . I think that's really sweet :D
He's REALLY different from me... but I love him :D
he's REALLY cute and REALLY REALLY phitttttt *.* *drools*
niceeeeeeeeee body, gourgeous smile... cute way of talking. ^^ awwz
I could go on and on and on and on.... and on... and on...
hmmm :D:D
awwww Snicky glad to see you happy again :) congrats on finding such a man! lol
hehe... wanna see how cute he is???
this is him --> http://photos1.hi5.com/0006/001/835/3t6O0m001835-02.jpg
:D:D
PS: and that's our friend joana - not me obv.! xD
PPS: and his hair is longer now... like... a bit... tis cute ^^
Ohoh nice :) Does he like the new nostril? :D
haha.
he's not into piercings and stuff... he's not really into my kinda style - as I said, we're tottally different.
but he supports me. he's proud that I am what I am, and that I don't care about other peoples opinions, and he admires me for it.
:D
aww that's awesome Snicky, congrats :D
Cute snicky, and sounds like a sweetie :)
That grand :) Its good to be different, a lot more to talk about I think!
Aw he seems lovely Snicky :) You deserve someone who'll look out for you.
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Us... my soulmate, better half, that git who knows all my secrets...
http://i236.photobucket.com/albums/f...ril2007018.jpg