General Relationship Thread

[Laura - Marie]

Foostar suggested it, and its a pretty good idea.

Any needed advice so we can all share expieriances



(sorry if this has been done, but an updated version is always good)

[Foostar]

Yay!

*dance*

I've been with my fiancé for 3 and a half years - got engaged after 6 months but always planned to have a long engagement. Had a LOT of ups and downs, but it's always been worth it

[Laura - Marie]

Yay!

*dance*

I've been with my fiancé for 3 and a half years - got engaged after 6 months but always planned to have a long engagement. Had a LOT of ups and downs, but it's always been worth it

Thats really sweet The ups always beat the downs, congratulations! (sp?)

[Foostar]

I won't lie - it's been bloomin' hard at times. Relationships are far from easy, no matter what anyone says. They need constant work and adaption. I have a horrible habit of taking him for granted :(

[.Only.Streetlights.]

You can only expect to reap what you sow. I can't impart much more wisdom than that :P

[Cinnamon_Spider]

I'm going through a divorce, and feeling kinda bitter about relationships in general....I think I'm just going to avoid them altogether in favour of something more *ahem* casual That way you're not going to get hurt. Easy peasy!

And Foo...I always find there are ups and downs, but as long as the ups are good enough to make it worthwhile then it's ok. It's when they aren't, or aren't so frequent...that's when you have a problem.

[Felidae]

definitely agree Caz, i think if somethings bothering you you need to sort it out, talk things over so it doesnt just spring up one day and make a future argument worse, always talk things over.

i love my boyfriend, been with him for almost a year and a half and i never imagined id have what i have with him and i love him so much, i know i wanna be with him forever and ive never had that feeling with anyone before. although only being 18 i know my feelings could change but i know thats how i feel now the thought of committing to him fully is a lovely one for me

[.Only.Streetlights.]

tbh I can't talk. I'm a wreck atm but that's what I tell myself.

[Felidae]

tbh I can't talk. I'm a wreck atm but that's what I tell myself.

:( *hug*

[Laura - Marie]

I'm going through a divorce, and feeling kinda bitter about relationships in general....I think I'm just going to avoid them altogether in favour of something more *ahem* casual That way you're not going to get hurt. Easy peasy!

.

But, theres always the risk of the casual thing becomeing an attachment, even if its the other person thats attached to you, then feelings can get hurt

[Cinnamon_Spider]

But, theres always the risk of the casual thing becomeing an attachment, even if its the other person thats attached to you, then feelings can get hurt

Very true, I suppose you just need to be clear from the outset...not always that easy though.

That sucks Caz....I do the same, tell people what they should be doing but don't actually act on my own suggestions myself.

[Foostar]

talk things over so it doesnt just spring up one day and make a future argument worse, always talk things over.

That was a hard lesson for me to learn... we nearly split up because we didn't talk enough. I'd mull over something for months, then it'd all come out suddenly and we'd fall out hugely.

[Laura - Marie]

Giving advice is much easier than following it

[.Only.Streetlights.]

Very true, I suppose you just need to be clear from the outset...not always that easy though.

That sucks Caz....I do the same, tell people what they should be doing but don't actually act on my own suggestions myself.

I tell myself that everyone's like that! But I am making a concerted effort from now on to be a bit less preachy and a bit more focussed. I think it'll last until I wake up tomorrow morning and go back to my everyday drudgery. :P

[Felidae]

That was a hard lesson for me to learn... we nearly split up because we didn't talk enough. I'd mull over something for months, then it'd all come out suddenly and we'd fall out hugely.

yup it always sucks when that happens if anythings bothering me now that includes my boyfriend i tell him and talk it out and we're better off for it