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  • I'm a pretty psychotic gf aswell tbh.
    I'm freaking out at the moment because my bf randomly stopped emailing me back and ive heard nothing from him in HOURS. Something as simple as that is freaking me out, it could literally be anything, but im making up scenarios and all sorts. I need to learn to trust and to chill out but i can't. My ex messed me up baaad and tbh, i wasnt exactly that sane to begin with!

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    • Me and JOe are planning our 5 year anniversary in April already! His dad died about 4 days before our first anniversary so that usually puts a bit of a dampner on things, but 5 years is a big one! Not sure what we can really do.. Will have to have a look at whats on in April..

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      • On the topic of psychotic partners (;
        My current boyfriend is being so obsessive and stalkerish and constantly ringing and texting, waiting outside the door of every class, if I go out with friends and say I can't see him he's waiting at my front door of my house, he'll call my phone eighty or ninety times, sometimes it's not even that i'm ignoring him i'm just busy and don't have my phone, and if I don't pick up he calls my dads phone that many times. I don't actually want to speak to him any more and i'm trying to create that distance for the next week so I can break up with him.
        I'm much more the laid back one in the relationship, usually it's the girlfriends that remember anniversaries/are always chasing but for me i'm not. This guy has made it too easy and besides we're just not compatible. His ideal night is playing scrabble with his mum and dad ¬¬ There's no challenge, just stalkerishness. He's driving me mad.

        r;hgoihdrhbuhdrgkuslijetjigjdj
        /end of rant.

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        • Bloody hell, that's nuts even by my standards. Sounds like you'd be well rid of him

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          • Saw Eskimo for the first time in a week the other day. I seriously have the best boyfriend ever - he scooped me up in a massive hug when he saw me, refused to let go and all but carried me to the car. At his, we just cuddled and he kept snuggling up to me and saying he loved me and missed me. It wasn't clichéd, just sweet and lovely. Had an epic snog session too

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            • Originally posted by tacosareyummeh View Post
              True, though next to the almost 3 and a half years with my ex and how long a lot of other people have been together..it's nothing!
              Oh well, these 10 months have been better than the almost 3 and a half years put together. :p



              I don't think you're being psychotic at all.
              In fact, I was the same way with my ex.
              Though I suppose it was a bit different, he'd say he was busy with his family and such, but then I'd find out he was on the computer and could have contacted me that way.
              When it comes to LDRs, for me at least, I feel you should be even more deserving of someone's time since you don't get as much as everyone else.
              I just feel like it's not hard to take 5 minutes out of your day to talk to someone you care about
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              omg thank you !! thats excatly how i feel. unfortunately my bf doesn't seem to be able to understand this. especailly when he first went to uni, he barely spoke to me. He seemed to make no effort. he said he was socialisting , which is fair enough, but all i asked for was 10minutes !

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              • Originally posted by valers26 View Post
                omg thank you !! thats excatly how i feel. unfortunately my bf doesn't seem to be able to understand this. especailly when he first went to uni, he barely spoke to me. He seemed to make no effort. he said he was socialisting , which is fair enough, but all i asked for was 10minutes !
                Same here! I love sending him loads of texts and emails and phone him just so he knows I care about him and am thinking about him during the day.

                He however is like "well it doesn't feel the same" and "it's more than just five minutes because I have to get into the right frame of mind"

                Although he did ring me twice today to check on me. Well checking on me is a bit of a stretch, he used the excuse of talking about flats, but he'd normally email that info so I know it's mostly just to make sure I've not jumped off of a bridge.

                He said he didn't want to get off of the phone because he didn't like to think of me just sitting at home being upset without being able to do anything. Which was sweet. I have the best boyfriend ever. Couldn't imagine not being with him.

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                • I think that's why I hated when I was in an LDR and can't ever do it again.
                  I'm just really..not needy perhaps, but I like to be with the one I love when I want and have cuddles.
                  It was really just too hard for me.
                  I'm kind of proud of myself for lasting about 3 and a half years though.
                  I guess it's different now for more people though cause their OH are going to a different school, they don't really have a choice unless they break up.
                  Three people I know are doing this, and their relationship seems to be getting on well, which makes me happy for them.

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                  • The parents came up for a flying visit yesterday afternoon, they brought a well nice huge mirror that my auntie didn't need anymore and some homemade coffee cake! I was dubious but the cake was really nice, couldn't really taste the coffee at all. Called home today cos I found a voucher for a free eye test and the 'rents had said they'd pay for one as well as new glasses for Christmas, I got to mention my interview as well and that Robin had said the cake was the best coffee cake he'd ever had. My mum said he seemed very kind (:S) and I was like yes, he's wonderful... so hopefully she actually approves for once. She also said that that was the most time they'd ever spent with him, which I realised is probably right. It's really weird considering how much more time I've spent with his family.
                    Last edited by Slania; 11-18-2009, 12:25 AM.

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                    • I've had a few LDRs, and I think all of them would have ended, regardless of distance. I couldn't do it again though, but I've seen it work, over and over.

                      Now, I spend so much time with Eskimo that I don't think I'd deal with the whole travel/leaving thing.

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                      • This is my first proper LDR, its working out so far, esp in comparison to my last relationship which was such a disaster, we saw each other constantly and he took me for granted. At least this way i know the spark will never go :P

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                        • Originally posted by Foostar View Post
                          I've had a few LDRs, and I think all of them would have ended, regardless of distance. I couldn't do it again though, but I've seen it work, over and over.

                          Now, I spend so much time with Eskimo that I don't think I'd deal with the whole travel/leaving thing.
                          This is why I couldn't do it again.
                          The only relationship I ever had before this one was LDR so I got used to it.
                          But now that I see Brandon every day, I couldn't bare to think I would only be seeing him once a month, once every couple weeks, or even only once a week.

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                          • I hate long(ish) distance, I wish I could see Rob more, although he'd probably get sick of me lol. He's worth putting up with the distance for though

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                            • I hate long distance. Hate it with a passion.
                              But I wouldn't give Benji up because of it.

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                              • My other serious relationship was LD and I honestly think that was the sole reason it ended. Maybe things would have broken down eventually, but we were very much in love and LD killed us. We only saw each other every few months if that because he lived in Ireland. We spoke every single day and it never got boring and when we saw each other the passion was there. But there was no sign of us being together geographically in the future and so we gave up.

                                I'm glad we did because I love Simon and because we've had face to face relationship as well as long distance and so it makes our relationship deeper and I think he's probably better for me. It's a more temultuous relationship than with my ex, we're very very different while me and my ex were quite similar. I think that brings in an interesting dynamic and I think we bring more to each other.

                                I'm so excited about living together. It looks like we might get this flat. If so we'll be living together in early December, in just over a fortnight. I think we really need this.

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