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I was, but I just don't think it's right any more... and it would be silly to make a lifetime commitment when things aren't right.
To be totally honest, things haven't been 100% for some time and I don't want to work at fixing it alone any more. Furthermore, my head isn't in the right place to deal with it atm. I've suggested some time apart, but I think I've already given up.
*hugs for Jane*
Thats a shame but tbh there is no point in being a marriage thats failing before its had a chance to start. If you manage to work things out then great! But don't be too hard on yourself if it doesn't - some things just aren't meant to happen. I wish you all the best though for whatever way it turns out.
EDIT : damn! Caz just summed this up in like 1/5 of the words and a fraction of the time! Gutted!
I've been absolutely miserable about it for weeks, to the extent that I wasn't doing my job properly. Unfortunately, the OH has a 'bury the head in the sand' approach, just hoping it will go away.... and it's just not going to. I've been to see my family this weekend, and they support my decision.
Aw, sorry to hear Jane. :(
Sounds like it's for the best though, and at least you can mature enough to know it's not right, unlike a lot of people who I'm sure would have either ignored it or tried to make it work anyway.
awww *hugs jane* i'm sure you'll make the right decision.. marriage is a big thing and well like everyone said.. if you feel you're not 100% it might not be right.. i'm sure its better to make a decision now than later.. perhaps your OH will see that he needs to work things out??